Being inspired instead of bitter
"Don't envy what people have, emulate what they did to have it."
- Tim Fargo
Do you ever look at the lives of other people and wish you had something they have? While it's natural to become envious of others and want to have a similar lifestyle or successes, it can also become a problem if we focus more on the success of others than we do on wanting to improve our own lives. Also, even though we may see how others are thriving in their lives, we don't necessarily see the whole picture and know all of the details of how others live.
A big reason why people tend to look at others and become jealous or even loathsome of their success is because they may not feel like they are where they want to be in life. Some people would rather focus on what they do not have instead of putting in the required effort to have the same level of success they see in others and would like for themselves. There are so many competing variables at play that it does not even seem fair to compare ourselves with others. Our upbringing, our cultural background and our level of intelligence (both IQ and EQ) are just some of the factors that make it difficult to even measure our worth versus others.
The one thing we have control over is how we choose to live out the rest of our lives. The person we should compare ourselves to is the person we were yesterday, last month and last year. A more healthy way to view the success of others is examining what they have accomplished to get where they are. Success does not always come easy, especially for those not born into wealth or influence. Some of the most successful people in the world had to bust their butts to get where they are. Many of them came from nothing.
Who are the people in your life who inspire you to continue striving and thriving in life? What can you learn from their success? As long as we keep improving our own worth, we can make every tomorrow better than every yesterday. We don't need to pass up anyone else. We just keep leveling up in our own lives while being grateful for how far we have come and what we have accomplished along the way. That's the best measure of success. We mind our own progress and focus on living our own best life.
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