"The only limits in your life are the ones you put on yourself, so dream big and be bold."
I can be really good at talking myself out of anything that may actually make my life more enjoyable and meaningful. I've also grown tired of it. When it comes to living a better life, it's usually ourselves standing in the way of whatever that may look like for us. There will always be factors that can limit us. Time and money typically live at the top of that list. One factor many of us may brush over is our own self-doubt. It's easily toward the top of many people's list of reasons not to sign up for that class or start that side hustle business. It's so much easier to not make the effort and makes excuses instead.
What I found is my excuses prevented me from being able to become the very best version of me. My excuses were also flimsy. I could make the time. I could scrounge up the money or resources I needed. I could make a plan and execute it. But I seemed to always avoid the hurdle of self-doubt. What I really needed was to believe in myself. I needed to believe that it was possible, and that I was capable of whatever change I was contemplating. I had to remove the biggest hurdle in front of me: My own self-worth.
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It took years of challenging self-doubt and self-loathing to recognize the err of my ways. I became my own worst enemy in my pursuit of living a life filled with more purpose and joy. I realized I needed to get off my couch of comfort, where fear and past trauma wanted no part of creating a better life. They preferred a safe life, where there are no surprises, good or bad. I wanted more. I wanted to explore. I realized the fear and trauma don't have the final say. I learned to treat them as overprotective parents, looking out for my safety. I get it. I've been through some stuff, but that's what has made me who I am, scars and all.
I ditched my couch of comfort for a wheel of adventure. I never know where my next adventure will take me. It might not be what I expect. It may be even better. What I love is that it will not be boring, or predictable. So far, it's helped me to see new places and meet new people who share my zest for life, and who feel the fear of the unknown and do it anyway. My newfound confidence and Faith also help me create a life not limited by insecurities or invisible scars. They can be helpful reminders in the form of overprotective parents, but they are no longer holding me back from doing more. Seeing more. Living and loving more.
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